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Domestic violence and abuse

It's not your fault

Domestic violence and abuse is any incident of threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between adults who are or have been in a relationship together, or between family members, regardless of gender or sexuality.

Whatever form it takes, domestic violence is rarely a one-off incident. More usually it's a pattern of abusive and controlling behaviour through which the abuser seeks power over their victim.

  • recognise that it is happening to you - domestic violence and hate crime can happen to anyone regardless of age, race, religion, gender or sexual orientation
  • accept that you are not to blame - no one deserves to be assaulted, abused or humiliated - there is no excuse
  • plan in advance how you might respond to different scenarios, including crisis situations
  • rehearse your escape plan with your children and teach them how to call 999 in an emergency and give their full name, address and telephone number
  • keep important telephone numbers with you
  • are there any neighbours that you trust? If so, make them aware of what's going on and ask them to call the police if they hear sounds of a violent attack
  • pack an emergency bag for yourself and your children and leave it with a trusted friend or relative
  • if you have a mobile phone, keep it charged and with you at all times - if not, make sure you know where the nearest public phone is

Within Warwickshire there is a multi-agency website and telephone support called Warwickshire Against Domestic Abuse.